Male Rape

• About three percent of American men —- a total of 2.78 million men—have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. [Prevalence, Incidence and Consequences of Violence Against Women 1998.]
• In 2002, one in every eight rape victims who reported the crime was male. [NCVS 2002]

Men are far less likely to report a rape than women. The stigma is even greater and the fear of what people will think stops most men from telling anyone about the crime.
Call a rape crisis center. Believe it. You won’t be the first man to call. They know what to say and what to do to help you through this. Look at these sites for help.

Orange County Community Service Program

www.cspinc.org/program/victimassistance/victimassistance2.htm

Abused Empowered Survive Thrive

www.aest.org.uk/survivors/male/male_on_male_rape.html

Dating Violence Against Men

www.menweb.org/dateviol/malerape.htm

Alcohol and drugs at the intersection of nonconsensual sex.

Alcohol is the #1 date rape drug.

The law says “if your partner cannot say “yes” and you continue with any sex act, the act can be considered rape.

Party rules. Never let your drink out of your sight. Take it into the bathroom with you or leave it with a friend. Never let someone else open your drink for you, even if it’s Pepsi or water.

Date rape drugs are something you should know a little bit about. These web sites do a fine job of explaining.

http://www.sa.rochester.edu/masa/drugs.php

http://www.coolnurse.com/date_rape.htm

If you have some time and want to read a very interesting, in-depth national report on the subject of rape go to:

http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/nij/pubs-sum/182369.htm

If you have been raped…..

You are going to want to go take a long, hot shower, throw away the clothes you were wearing, climb into bed and sleep forever. None of those things will help you in the long run.

You may want to call a rape crisis center or the police right away.
Don’t shower or douche.

Keep the clothes you were wearing; they are evidence.

Get to a hospital that can do a forensic rape exam.

A rape crisis center and/or the police will help you get to the correct hospital in your area.

Even if you choose to call a friend instead of having the forensic exam, you must get medical attention. You could have injuries, you need to be tested and treated for possible sexually transmitted diseases, and talk about the possibility of pregnancy.

Go to the web site below to get additional information about perpetrators, prevention, and what to do if you are assaulted.

http://www.4woman.gov/faq/sexualassault.htm

Want to see how smart you are? Below are two tests that will illuminate and educate:

http://www.sa.rochester.edu/masa/multchoice.php

http://www.sa.rochester.edu/masa/truefalse.php